Love is a decision, not a feeling.

This is a Monday's Musings - Random thoughts, feelings and musings by Yours Truly entry under my themed blog posts! For more info about the themed blog posts, do read the entry here

I think most of my Monday's Musings entries comes from real life experiences. When irked, amused, I think it makes good content for Monday's boliaoness posts. These are all true experiences where I faced during dating then engagement till marriage life.

I dunno if i should consider myself a newly wed.

In the eyes of the law, we've been legally wed for over 2 years. In the eyes of the chingchongcheenabiangboomboomwtf, we've only been married since march after the oh-so-important tea ceremony.

Perhaps we're still honeymooning, cos we're "newish"ly-weds where all is fine and dandy. Perhaps we're looking at the world with rose tinted glasses cos we're not staying together full time. (Yes, i can hear a few of you guys gasping.)

It's really disheartening to see so many marriages around me breaking down. I've seen wives unhappy. I've heard of major quarrels where both parties are not talking to each other for months. I've heard of split ups where they decided to call it quits. I've heard of partners deciding to escape their marriages by choosing to work overseas.

But i guess it's common? As easy as one can get together, it's easy to let go too.

Personalities clashes, people tire, it's easy to give up. Which makes me wonder, why get together in the first place? Why get married?

I looked at Skai one day and told him about the drama I've heard. In his own words, he replied "then we'll make a point never to be that way, never to take each other for granted."

Can it be that easy? Perhaps those couples were like us previously? Loving, happy, annoying blissful? Till shit hit the fan?

I once admitted to a friend that I was scared to be too happy. Scared to love so deeply. Scared to expect too much. Because the more i let myself be vulnerable, the easier it'll be to break my heart in a million pieces. I'm an extremely sentimental and emotional person.

Well, to be exact, i'm also extremely volatile. My emotions swing to extremes.

Getting back to the main point, i really hope none of my close friends or myself will experience such heartbreaks.

And i do hope, if i EVER do, if i ever consider calling it quits, to look back to the good old times and think it through. To never give up.

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Because.. Love is a decision, not a feeling. Love is a reason.

I guess there really isn't any point to this entry. I just felt really sad reading about certain updates. :/

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