i have been in that state before. many a times. being unhappy with everything in life. being not able to move on at all.
and i have friends in that stage right now. i really wish i can do more for them. but all i can offer them right now is company and a listening ear.
i guess the only one to help them now is themselves. to bring themselves out of the depression. no one can do that for that for them.
aside from friends dealing with memories of the past, there are others who obviously have issues/emotional baggage and yet not deal with them and lecture others on OUR emotional baggages when they themselves have not conquered theirs. which is rather pathetic i feel. instead of conquering their own baggages, they attack others to make themselves feel better.
when in actual fact, they are running away from their own baggages.
i rather let those who are in the depressed stage heal at their own time and be there for them. yes, i may give a nudge to them once in a while, be there for them but i wont push them. for i have been pushed once, and i know how it feels.
nobody wants to be depressed. if they could pick themselves up fast, they would. people heal at their own pace, some may heal extraordinary fast (but some may heal on the surface only) and some may take years but as long as they WANT to heal, that’s the first step to recovery.
to a dear friend, you know who you are: anytime you need to talk or you feel you’re slipping again, call me. i may not be able to take away your pain but i’ll be there for you when you want me to. hugs. i’m so proud to see you so strong.