what do you consider cheating?

during my taiwan trip, a few of us were having a mini debate on the term cheating. everyone has their own definitions and what would be considered acceptable to some is considered as cheating to others. now, i would like to hear your thoughts. which of the following do you consider as cheating?

  1. going out with a guy (who shows some interest in you. possibility of him wanting to chase you) w/o informing your bf
  2. going out with a guy (who shows some interest in you. possibility of him wanting to chase you). bf knows about it.
  3. dancing with a stranger at a club
  4. sharing your thoughts, ideals and other personal stuff about yourself to another guy and not your bf.
  5. kissing another guy.
  6. hugging another guy
  7. fucking another guy. (duh!)

what would hurt more? physical cheating or emotionally cheating? would you take someone back if he/she had cheated on you?

my ex (my first love) went after another girl when we were still together. even though they did not get together (the girl was a lesbian. HO HO HO!), i still considered that as cheating.

after we had broken up and when i had obviously moved on, the idiot tried to chase me back (why do guys only want you back when you’ve moved on? tsk tsk) and lied to me that the whole chasing the girl affair (otherwise known as the genevieve affair) was a lie. he did not chase her.

if he had told the truth, i might had forgiven him but he still lied to me. he who hated his dad for cheating on his mum. the apple doesnt fall far from the tree eh?

i was naive and stupid then. even when he lied to me, i didnt tell him i knew the truth. *shakes head*

so what do you consider cheating? would you forgive your partner for doing so? why?


  1. Another one, from a guy’s point of view (but may also be applicable from a girl’s):

    – Fucking a girl you pay (someone you have no feelings for)

    I mean at the end of the day, for some people, its just satisfying a physical desire –

    How do the ladies feel about this?


  2. I would consider #1, 4, 5 and 7 cheating. Personally, emotional cheating is harder to recover from. Once cheated, I wouldn’t want him/her back. Who knows when he/she might cheat again despite swearing not to? Perhaps he/she is sincere in wanted to mend the hole but as the saying goes, “Once bitten, twice shy”.


  3. It’s fine line between cheating and flirting, of which the latter is merely an attempt of self validation of your existence or simply put, you need to know if you “still have it”.

    Cheating is not not a physical action but more of a state of mind. If the person commits an act (whatever that may be, even for the simple act of going out without another person for a movie) and has the intention of not returning, that to me is cheating.

    Motive is key.


  4. I suppose, to my mind, cheating occurs when you look at someone else’s answers in an exam or test. 😀

    Ok ok. Serious, serious. Personally, i think cheating happens when the other person is unaware that his/her partner is seeing someone else romantically. I’m not sure i understand the difference between emotional and physical cheating. To me, they are one and the same: cheating.

    My ex-girlfriend chose another guy over me. I was aware that she was close to him, but i don’t really consider her cheating. Will i ever trust her again? I’m not sure if i can. She left me for another guy. What guarantees do i have or what makes me think that it won’t happen again?


  5. cheating is when u scribble the ans on ur hand and attempt to peep at it during exam…
    wait, cheating in r/s ah?

    I think 5 ba…
    i very open-minded 1…
    if the gal wanna hug the guy cos gd frens or whatsoever, den ok lah…

    but i feel kissing (esp on the lips) is on the higher end of the scale in terms of intimacy… yah…