Love Yours truly...

Relationships are complicated.

Sometimes I wonder why do we even bother getting into relationships. We form perfectly fine friendships with the opposite sex, we hang out every other day, we feel comfortable and we use each other as a shoulder to cry on, a ear to listen to our grieves and pet peeves.

Sometimes we feel a spark and we think, since we manage to get along so well, we might as well try taking it a step further. And we do live happily after, well for a few years that is….

Sooner or later, something happen, the sparks lessen, familiarity breeds contempt, the feelings fade and there might be someone better.

And we part.

What happens after that?

Do we ever return to be the same friendship we had, years ago? We hardly do. The friendship is lost, never to return again. We have lost a friend that we had dear to me. Seriously why bother?

Why do we hurt ourselves over and over again? Why bother getting into relationships when 90% of the time, it’s doomed to fail? Why risk a perfectly good friendship in hope of some “happily ever after” that will hardly happen?

Why do we try? Why bother? I rather have a best friend than a boyfriend who may turn into an ex boyfriend.

Ah well.

Comments

  1. I think relationship is just a matter of choice and sometimes it just ain’t easy.

    Why do we try? I guess because we choose not take an easy way out by not trying. 🙂

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  2. I second what u said my dear… that is exactly the reason why I choose to remain as frd with my best guy friend. However, when he does get into a r’ship later, we distanced too. I guess sometimes, they just dun treat us as dear as we hold them to our heart. Cheer up!

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  3. It’s weird I’ve been wondering about the whole “my other half” thing people like to go on about sometimes.

    It’s like saying we were never whole to begin with.

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  4. hey nadia…

    i question this most of the time myself…
    having another ex-bf on the list is a pain…
    and i probably wish i dun even have a list!

    i always think that ex bfs would make a good fren provided that it wasnt a nasty break up earlier…
    after all, he use to know you.. and he still does…

    when we read a new book each time…
    we wonder what kinda ending it would turn out to be…
    would be a happy one or a tragedy?
    noone knows except for the author till we finish reading it…

    This is how our life is…
    we can only see things one step at a time…
    flip a page and only know the content of that page…

    i totally understand the extra free time u have currently when u use to dedicate your weekends to tiger.. it becomes a routine… a routine is part of you…

    Now that this routine is gone, i hope u can take some time and find a new one…
    think about what you have overlooked…
    frens.. long lost hobby n etc…
    I know u probably wont have the mood to get movin’…
    take your time…
    im not gonna say things like..
    oh dun be upset.. and stuff..
    becuz it is normal to feel the ache…

    in fact.. feel it by all means..
    think all you want to..
    4getting it comes naturally…
    not something being force out of it…

    rmb.. ur readers get ur back..
    and im one of them =)

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  5. Problem is, no matter what choice you have made, it will almost eventually end up as something that you will probably regret in time to come.

    Remain as good friend, several years down the road, you regret the “what might have happened” if you have been more honest and steadfast with your feelings.

    Get together and break up and you will feel the same way as you have mentioned.

    If you want to be lovers, don’t start by being good friends. That’s what I was told. Tested and proven as well.

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  6. One theory of soulmates, presented by Aristophanes in Plato’s Symposium, is that humans originally were combined of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spending their lives searching for the other half to complete them…

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