Monthly Archives: February 2009


Not literally, of course.

What happened today was... I was riding as a pillion on my friend's bike and I was carrying a few bulky items, one being my huge bag and another being a paper bag. As we were riding, one of my paperbag contents fell and my friend helped picked it up (it was then a red light). I was adjusting the paperbag on my arm when my friend ride off and in that moment, I accidentally dropped my paperbag. (Yes, I was damn clumsy. :/ It was the first time I have ever done so. I guess I was a bit flustered over the picking of items earlier.)

As the traffic light had already turned green, we couldn't pick  up the paperbag and my friend had to drive off. We then made a u-turn to try to locate the items and pick them up. In my mind, I was thinking that the items were gone... either someone had drove over it. Surprisingly I couldn't find the bag and I was thinking probably someone had picked it up and took it. I was kind of resigned to losing the items and told my friend to drive off. Howeve, when we made a last u-turn to double check, I noticed a rider signalling to us. It turned out that the rider had picked up my paperbag and was trying to find us to return it back to me.

This was a perfect stranger. He need not had made the effort to even bother to pick the items up or return to us. He could have just ride off but yet he didn't.

I was simply touched by his kindness and I didn't manage to really thank him properly. (He did look a bit shy and was in a rush...) I had never expected anyone to do such a thing and till now, I still feel amazed by his actions and thankful for his help.

Thank you. 🙂


Sometimes I wonder why do we even bother getting into relationships. We form perfectly fine friendships with the opposite sex, we hang out every other day, we feel comfortable and we use each other as a shoulder to cry on, a ear to listen to our grieves and pet peeves.

Sometimes we feel a spark and we think, since we manage to get along so well, we might as well try taking it a step further. And we do live happily after, well for a few years that is....

Sooner or later, something happen, the sparks lessen, familiarity breeds contempt, the feelings fade and there might be someone better.

And we part.

What happens after that?

Do we ever return to be the same friendship we had, years ago? We hardly do. The friendship is lost, never to return again. We have lost a friend that we had dear to me. Seriously why bother?

Why do we hurt ourselves over and over again? Why bother getting into relationships when 90% of the time, it's doomed to fail? Why risk a perfectly good friendship in hope of some "happily ever after" that will hardly happen?

Why do we try? Why bother? I rather have a best friend than a boyfriend who may turn into an ex boyfriend.

Ah well.