Nursing aversion

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I have to admit, I have been extremely tardy with updating on the milestones. It's been so hectic and i hardly have the time to sit at the computer especially with Davina needing my attention always.

I only have time on my mobile these days and even those time, is very limited. The panda period is tough but this too, will pass ūüôā

Here's Aidan's updates from 23 - 26 months!

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  • At 23 months, I was still latching Aidan. While I know some may frown on latching as it may cause contractions, I have also heard of mothers latching throughout their pregnancy. I decided to continue latching though I reduced the frequency due to my nursing aversion.
  • Aidan still seem to enjoy school and playing with the kids. There were some mild cases of Aidan being bitten by his schoolmates but I heard that Aidan continued playing with them. LOL
  • Aidan also started recognising my tummy as meimei then.

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  • Aidan's childcare had a bout of HFMD so we took him out of childcare for 3 weeks to be safe as we couldn't risk him contracting HFMD and passing to me at my final trimester.
  • Because we didn't send him to school, we missed celebrating his birthday at school. Instead we had a simple celebration at home where we discovered he is scared of lighted candles.
  • He can't pronounce his name still so he calls himself A. He would refer to his items like "A clothes", "A shoes", "A eat".
  • Aidan is still very picky over his food. Most of the times, he refuses to chew and would only take soft food. He loves soup a lot!

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  • He is extremely peckish and would want to snack. We have bought lots of puffs, biscuits and snacks for him.
  • Meimei arrived 2 weeks after his 2 years birthday. He loves meimei a lot. He would hug and kiss her. But he doesn't know his strength, so we would watch out how he treats Davina lol.
  • Aidan is still very addicted to YouTube and we have had many episodes of him throwing tantrums just to get his way. Terrible twos?

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  • Aidan recognises us. When we show him pictures of us in the past, he can still recognise us and would call us.
  • He is also very helpful and we would ask him to help pick up items etc and he would happily agree to do so.
  • He loves to play with toys especially the cutting toys. I think it's because he watches those videos on YouTube and is happy to see the same items at home.

So far Aidan has not showed any jealousy to Davina, will see how it goes!

Davina at one month old!

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  • Davina like Aidan is exclusively breastfed. But her feeding behaviour is the opposite of Aidan. While Aidan latches on strong and long, Davina drinks for a short period of time but frequently.
  • Davina also rejects bottles unlike Aidan. She wakes every 1.5 hours and needs to either latch or be cuddled.
  • She sleeps better with us around her. We would pat her or hug her to sleep.
  • Davina seems to be more serious as compared to Aidan. I suspect her personality will be more like Skai's. LOL

 

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As some of you guys may know, I am a full on hardcore breastfeeding enthusiast. For myself that is. I fell in love with breastfeeding once my supply regulated and Aidan had found a good latching position.

Needless to say, I was pretty determined to continue breastfeeding for #2. When I found out I was pregnant, I continued to pump till my supply dwindled. I stopped pumping at about 18 weeks (pregnancy brain, can't remember exactly when)

I still continued latching though as Aidan has yet to wean. I also did not want to force him to wean, I prefer for him to self-wean if he ever wants to. And I knew that he pretty much was comfort latching.

But latching became so painful. It was really unbearable. Am not sure if it was the hormones or what, but it was more painful for me than the first week of breastfeeding.

I didn't share this much but I started feeling angry also whenever Aidan latched. Like straight on angry feelings, pissed off feelings. I felt so angry at him.

And I got so confused with my feelings. I love latching and I love breastfeeding. Why was I getting angry? I had no history with prenatal depression nor postnatal depression so I was super confused.

Here I was.. feeling angry when Aidan latched and guilty the next moment. My emotions were going crazy honestly. I soon started googling and came across the term "Nursing aversion".

Basically it's quite common though I have never heard of the term before. Seems like most mums get it when they get pregnant the second time.

Skai encouraged me to wean Aidan since I was having all of these negative feelings but I wasn't ready to call it quits. I researched, joined Facebook groups, read lots of articles and decided to try out the tips suggested.

I still latch Aidan but I cut down on the latching time. I would tell him it hurts and stop for a while but latch again later and we soon established a routine. Beginning, it was tough, he would cry, yell and get angry but after a while, it went well.

Now that colostrum has kicked in, latching is less painful. Aidan pretty much latches once or twice a day and asks for 'neh neh' at times.

I'm glad that I managed to find some information about how I was feeling and found out how to make the best out of it. Nursing aversion is real, I guess it could be a kind of prenatal depression too?

I honestly can't wait to tandem latch both Aidan and Davina in future. I'm hoping this nursing aversion feeling would pass, some say it would stay for a while. But I'll try my very best. To fellow mums who are suffering from nursing aversion, jiayou ladies! Do whatever makes it better. If you have to wean, by all means. If you have to cut down, go ahead.

Jiayou!

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