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Is monogamy the way to go?
Friday, October 2nd, 2009I was having a little chat with a friend a few weeks ago and the topic of monogamy came up. We were debating a bit over the benefits of monogamy or being in a polygamy or polygamous relationship when I realised…
I was not a monogamy supporter. Much to my surprise.
Why do I say that a polygamous relationship would be better? I think that it’s possible to love more than one person at a time. Love itself can mean many many different things and for this post, I would not break it down. And obviously it’s possible to lust over more than one person at a time.
We were build to have many relationships back in those caveman times. Those emperors had many concubines and they all learnt how to share. In some countries, the muslims have more than one wife.
It’s only in later years, we were wired to think of only having one life partner. Information was drummed over and over into us that we were guilty and wrong if we lusted or loved more than one person.
While I’m fine with being in a monogamous relationship, I do think it does have its drawbacks. (Please note that I have never strayed before. Emotionally or Physically.)
I think if we were “allowed” to love more than one, there will be less heartbreaks (and of course, we would have to learn how to share, just like a kid learning to share his beloved toys with his siblings). Ideally, there will be less cases of im leaving you because i don’t feel for you, lesser cases of cheating since u are licensed to fuck more than one. We will be allowed to love more than one, which does make sense. It’s not always where you can find a soul mate. Let’s face it, in some relationships, you stay with the person not because you love him/her, but because it’s the “right” thing to do.
But of course, whether it’ll (polygamous relationships) actually work is a different thing. It’s an ideal situation in an ideal world.
Unfortunately, we humans just love to screw everything up. Don’t we?
A fond farewell.
Wednesday, July 29th, 2009I write because I can.
I feel therefore I am.
I cry because I hurt.
I wonder, was I ever wrong.
The hurt has gone far too long.
It’s time to call it an end.
Take care my dear old friend.
Bringing down those walls.
Tuesday, June 30th, 2009Some time back, I was going through a bad time. Bad news came coming in nonstop and I was only able to open up to a few people about it. I felt so terrible then and I even cried and fretted about it. After the disappointment, I decided to move on. One trait I have is the ability to move on quick from disappointments. I learnt to accept disappointments in my stride and just pick myself up after unleashing those emotions.
It got me thinking much about things recently. Despite seeming like the open person on my blog, I do actually have a hard time opening up about myself to people. I find it hard to talk about my problems sometimes as I really hate burdening others with my problems. I guess after countless of times playing Aunt Agony to some of my friends, (and boy, some of them are really complain queens. seriously.), I never want to be one of them.
Thus the only way I really unburden myself sometimes, is through my blog and yet sometimes, I feel afraid to do so. I feel vulnerable doing so.
But after a talk with a dear old friend, I think perhaps it’s time to break some walls. I want to be a happier person. As in, really happy, not pretend happy or seemingly happy.
I’m going to remove negativity from my life, be it from naysayers or even toxic friends. I’ll try my best and I’m going to count every blessing I have, be it, minor or anything. And I started doing so today. I count the little blessings and Ihad a rather pleasant day.
